Healing the Inner Child and the Infantilization of Women

Original photo by EK-StockPhotos NOTE: This post discusses kink, ageplay, and abuse recovery. I received a question from raw-noize-slut on Tumblr, after writing about putting my hair in pigtails, and thought my answer deserved publishing here. This was her question: I’ve heard many Trans people talk about reliving childhood either because 1. Hormones are giving …

Informed Agency at Cum & Glitter

Note: This post vaguely mentions child abuse, consensual “non-consensual” BDSM scenes involving staged butchering, and graphic sexuality. It also discusses using BDSM as a positive tool for healing from trauma. This weekend, I purposefully exposed myself to something with the potential to cause a flashback: a “nonconsensual” BDSM scene. Why would I want to expose …

Socialization and Being a Nerdy Trans Femme

NOTE: The following article mentions trans/misogyny, ungendering, and dissociation. Dissociative identity does bizarre things to me. I learned to craft identities on the fly to please my abusers. To gain traits they wanted while hiding ones they didn’t. That habit continues to this day. It’s a reflex. And it reacts not just to individuals, but …