Informed Agency at Cum & Glitter
Posted: September 23, 2012 Filed under: feminism, recovery, sexuality | Tags: abuse, bdsm, consent, feminism, flashbacks, kink, ptsd, sex, sex-positive, sexuality 6 Comments »
[Content notice: Vague mentions of child abuse, consensual "non-consensual" BDSM scenes involving staged butchering]
This weekend, I purposefully exposed myself to something with the potential to cause a flashback: a “nonconsensual” BDSM scene. Why would I want to expose myself to scenes that theatrically emulate abuse? Why not just avoid abusive themes altogether? Wouldn’t my life be easier that way?
Not exactly. I tried that method for years. Repressed memories still haunted me. I still got panic attacks. I just had no means to cope with them. PTSD stops traumatic memories from becoming integrated with the rest of one’s psyche. Instead of merging with the background noise of memories we cart around in our conscious minds every day, they become predators that lurk in the shadows, leaping out to attack and then scurrying away.
In the interest of having a fun sexy time, and also the chance to confront some of those shadows, I attended the Folsom edition of Cum & Glitter. Read the rest of this entry »
Nonstandard Sex Organs
Posted: September 9, 2012 Filed under: trans | Tags: bodies, queer, sex, sexuality, trans, transgender Leave a comment »Trans people have nonstandard sex organs, according to ISO 9000. Please fill out the following paperwork in order to attain standard sex organs from our sex organ factory, along with the mandatory fee of $20,000 (minimum). Until you obtain ISO-compliant sex organs, you are not permitted to date or have sex without feeling terribly ashamed of yourself, as per ISO Guidelines §504.8b, “Standardized Sex Organs are Superior”.
Cis people, you may also have nonstandard sex organs. See your plastic surgeon for more details.
